“How
we perceive a situation and how we react to it is the basis of our
stress. If you focus on the negative in any situation, you can expect
high stress levels. However, if you try and see the good in the
situation, your stress levels will greatly diminish.” – Catherine Pulsifer
Holidays
are a time to gather with friends and family to enjoy the festivities
the season brings. Everyone seems to look forward to the holidays, the
time off of school and work, and even coziness with movies by a fire.
However, the holiday season can also be a huge source of stress
…
To
prepare presents, host parties, bake goodies, have family stay over,
and decorate, the stress can easily add up. This can make the holidays
seem like more a chore than a celebration. If this sounds like you
during the holidays, try to implement these tips into your daily routine
this season. You’ll feel less overburdened with stress, and can
embrace more of the true joy the holiday season brings.
Here are 4 Ways to Handle Holiday Stress
Don’t take on more than you can handle.
If
your family expects you to host the holiday gatherings this year, but
you don’t think you can manage, don’t be afraid to speak up and ask if
they might be able to host instead. You might have other obligations, or
simply not have time to get the house ready for a big party. There’s
nothing wrong with asking someone else in the family to host. You could
always offer to bring more snacks or decorations to help them get
everything ready for guests; that way, you can still make an important
contribution without feeling overwhelmed.
Prioritizing tasks can
also help you keep stress levels under control. Many people pack way too
much into their days, often producing mounting stress. If you have to,
make a physical list of everything you need to get done. According to a
Harvard study, writing down your goals can dramatically improve your chances for success.
Make
sure your “To Done” List (as we like to call it) only includes a few
key tasks you need to complete each day. It’s much easier to manage
stress when you’re reasonable with what you can accomplish within a
specific time-frame.
If you can’t get something done that day, move it to the next day, or even ask someone for help -it’s OK!
Do something fun each day.
The
holidays don’t have to be all work and no play. Even if you have a lot
to do, you can still set aside a little time each day to step away from
the chaos of the holidays and nourish your spirit with people and
activities that makes your heart happy. After a certain time, set an
agreement with yourself to stop what you’re doing and
take time for you. You’ll get everything done that you need to at the right time.
If
you can’t get any alone time, spend time with family and friends doing
something that doesn’t involve preparation and effort. Play a board
game, watch movies, go eat at your favorite restaurant, or something
your group can enjoy together.
Leading up to major holidays, you
might feel strapped for time and rush to finish cooking and wrapping
presents at the last minute.
Keep healthy eating habits.
During
the holidays, it can be tempting to indulge in treats more often than
you should, but think of how you will likely feel after the holidays are
over. Make a pact with yourself to keep up your normal eating habits
throughout the holidays, with some “cheat meals” sprinkled in here and
there. Of course, many folks enjoy it, and eat what they want in
celebration of the holidays, but it’s easy to let a couple days of
treating yourself turn into a few more days, then weeks, then months.
To
make sure you stay on track, start a healthy holiday eating challenge
with friends, so you can hold each other accountable and also have
workout buddies to rely on. The holidays can be a prime time for putting
on pounds, and weight gain can often be a trigger for stress in a
person’s life.
And if you love desserts, (who doesn’t?) try making
them lower-fat by using applesauce instead of oil. This way, you can
still enjoy your favorite foods without worrying about how your jeans
will fit the next day. Making delicious food that everyone enjoys is an
important part of the holiday season. When you feed your body well, you
will feel good, leaving less room for stress to creep into your life.
Embrace whatever happens.
Even
if you go to the ends of the Earth to make sure something turns out
perfectly, it may not always go as planned. Sometimes, you just have to
embrace what’s going on in life and make the best of it.
You might
put a pie in the oven while you go put the baby down for a nap or take a
shower, and before you know it, the pie gets a little too brown on top.
Or, you might go out shopping, expecting to find all your gifts in one
day, but only come out with a few. Thinking about what could have
happened is futile. The moment has already happened – now you get to
create new things in
this moment.
There’s
always a new day, so don’t stress too much if things don’t go as
planned. You may even come to discover that the pie burned because
someone else in your family already made the exact same one to bring
later, and maybe you didn’t find all your presents because the store you
go to the next day will have the perfect gifts for everyone on your
list. Whatever happens this holiday, embrace it. Love it or learn from
it.
Keeping calm during the holidays and choosing not to worry
about the little things can make a big difference in how much stress you
put yourself under. Worrying about something doesn’t solve the problem;
it only creates more to worry about. Remember this the next time you
find yourself in a stressful situation, and remember – you control your
reality. You only feel stressed if you choose to, so choose positively!