Woman Says Being 'Too Pretty' Made Dating a Total Nightmare

by Maressa Brown

 

Maybe once you're married and thoroughly removed from it, dating doesn't seem that bad, but when you're in the trenches of singledom and looking for love, it can be downright hellish. No matter what you look like. Although, at least according to one woman named Paula Jane Allen, the prettier you are, the harder it is to date and find a good man. Pardon?
The 33-year-old, who is now married with two kids, recently shared her story with The Daily Mail, inspired to give her take after reading the Mail's interview with Verity Brown, a woman who says she struggled to find a guy online as a result of being overweight. Nonsense, according to Allen! She argues that it's easier for more unattractive women to find dates, because guys don't see them as arm candy or hookup material. Oh, dear.
Allen, a size 6 blonde (pictured right), says she was sick of being approached by shallow guys in clubs looking for one-night stands, so she turned to online dating sites, which "guarantee to match you up with someone who shares your interests, so it's more about personality."
But surprise, surprise! She found that the scene on sites like Match.com and eHarmony was still "truly awful."
She elaborated:

You'd regularly get people getting in contact just saying, "Fancy meeting up for a f**k?" You'd get married men just wanting fun, and you'd get people saying, "I just need someone for one night, can you do me a favor?"

Apparently, Allen wanted to share her struggle to let women like Verity know that weight loss isn't the answer to finding The One. "Just be yourself, no one should have to change," she says.
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Yes! Hurrah! However, she struck out big time by griping that being conventionally attractive makes it even harder to find a partner. By making it like women need to compete for who has it worse! Come on, that's a.) ridiculous and b.) simply not the point.
What is: The dating scene is replete with superficial jerks, cheaters, people looking for sex and nothing more, etc. No matter what you look like, you're going to have to encounter these "unviable candidates" either way! Like one free dating site will tell ya, there are plenty of fish, and A LOT of them aren't in the sea for the right reasons.
That's why you do need to be yourself, be confident, and be prepared to stick to your guns and just say NO to a slew of losers while searching for Mr. or Ms. Right. That's true, whether you're size 6 or 24 or anything in between.