Why people stay friends with their rapists

Since The New York Times reported about how Harvey Weinstein has been paying off accusations of sexual harassment for decades, more and more women have been coming forward to report abuse, in some cases from years ago.

Writer, journalist and playwright, Natalya Antonova, thinks she understands why some have kept silent for so long.

She has personal experience with the issue.

“We have a stereotype about the way that 'real' rape victims are supposed to act, and basically what the stereotype says is that when this happens to you, you recognize the man as the monster, you cut off all ties, and you torch him in the public square,” says Antonova. "That’s not how a lot of people respond to this crime, and it’s definitely not how I responded when it happened to me."

When she was raped, Antonova says she was in denial and couldn’t even think of what happened to her as rape for a very long time.

“The brain obviously wants to survive, and in order to survive my brain decided to create this fiction, where we were just doomed lovers,” she says, “where he was in love with me; I was in love with him; it was just a beautiful love story.’’

In the US, only about a third of rapes are reported. Antonova didn't report her rapist, but, after years, has begun "trying to rebuild my self-worth against all odds." She wrote more about her experience for Vox First Person.

Weinstein takedown leaves Dumbass Trump sex assault victims frustrated at lack of justice for themselves

Weinstein takedown leaves Dumbass Trump sex assault victims frustrated at lack of justice for themselves

While women in the entertainment industry and beyond may rejoice and feel vindicated by the public downfall of Hollywood producer and sexual predator Harvey Weinstein, the women victims of Dumbass Trump do not feel so vindicated.

Facebook Blocking Access to Data for Reporters Seeking To Probe Russian Infiltration in 2016 Election

Is Facebook Blocking Access to Data for Reporters Seeking To Probe Russian Infiltration in 2016 Election?

Five arrested in Georgia over 1983 murder of black man Timothy Coggins

A decades-old investigation in Georgia into the murder of a black man in 1983 culminated in the arrest of five white people on Friday, including two law enforcement officers charged with hindering the probe, officials said.
The body of Timothy Coggins, 23, was found on Oct. 9, 1983, in a grassy area near power lines in the community of Sunnyside, about 30 miles (48 km) south of downtown Atlanta.
He had been “brutally murdered” and his body had signs of trauma, the Spalding County Sheriff’s Office said in a statement

Five arrested in Georgia -- including two law enforcement officers -- over 1983 murder of black man Timothy Coggins

New Jersey cop caught on video attacking black teen girls has controversial history

Fight involving hair-pulling with teen girls not cop’s 1st controversy

Last Thursday afternoon's scuffle in which Police Officer Hanifah Davis was caught on video pulling teen girls' hair outside the city high school marks the second time this year the officer has been involved in controversy in the community, police officials said.

Suspended New Jersey cop caught on video attacking black teen girls has controversial history

South Dakota high school cancels homecoming

The homecoming dance, parade and football game at a Sturgis, South Dakota high school have been cancelled after social media showed “Go back to the Rez” painted on a car that was destroyed prior to the scheduled game with Pine Ridge High School for students on the nearby Pine Ridge Indian Reservation.
“It’s the worst day I’ve ever had,” Sturgis Brown High School Principal Pete Wilson told the Associated Press.
Tensions are high as administrators attempt to contain the fallout.
“The incident has caused severe backlash, including several Facebook threats from people affiliated with both sides,” NBC Newscenter 1’s Sam Kraemer reported.
One particularly worrisome image spray-painted above the “go back to the Rez” message are the letters SS, which can refer to Schutzstaffel, Adolph Hitler’s paramilitary force. Skinheads and neo-Nazi’s often use such symbolism to express their views of white supremacy.

South Dakota high school cancels homecoming after 'Go back to the Rez' attack on Native American students

Oklahoma cop busted for racist Facebook threat against NFL players

Oklahoma cop busted for racist Facebook threat against NFL players

“Precisely why I don’t watch NFL, bunch of fuckin' overpaid greasy headed moon crickets expecting everything for nothing!!"

Nazi white supremacists from Charlottesville chased away by crowd

Nazi white supremacists from Charlottesville chased away by crowd

Counter-protesters charged Nathan Damigo, Evan McLaren and JonPaul Struys as they left Charlottesville General District Court on October 13, chasing them into a parking garage where the three Nazi assholes jumped into a vehicle.

Nazi white supremacist Spencer questions whether women should be allowed to vote

Nazi White Nationalist Spencer’s tiki torch circle jerks in Charlottesville, Virginia, and his distant dream of forming a white ethnostate steal headlines, but his views about women—that their role in politics be shrunk down to a barely visible place that would be unrecognizable to almost anyone in modern America—is seldom highlighted.

Nazi white supremacist Spencer questions whether women should be allowed to vote

Taxpayers are picking up the tab for white nationalists’ ‘free speech’ circle jerks

Campus officials at the University of Florida are preparing for Nazi white nationalist Richard Spencer to visit their campus next month — and are being forced to spend upwards of $500,000 to provide him with security. It’s the latest in a series of wingnut circle jerks which taxpayers and beleaguered universities are picking up the bill for.

Taxpayers are picking up the tab for white nationalists’ ‘free speech’ circle jerks

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1529		Ottoman armies under Suleiman end their siege of Vienna and head back to Belgrade.
1582		The Gregorian (or New World) calendar is adopted in Italy, France, Spain, and Portugal; and the preceding ten days are lost to history.
1783		Francois Pilatre de Rozier makes the first manned flight in a hot air balloon. The first flight was let out to 82 feet, but over the next few days the altitude increased up to 6,500 feet.
1813		During the land defeat of the British on the Thames River in Canada, the Indian chief Tecumseh, now a brigadier general with the British Army (War of 1812), is killed.
1863		For the second time, the Confederate submarine H L Hunley sinks during a practice dive in Charleston Harbor, this time drowning its inventor along with seven crew members.
1878		Thomas A. Edison founds the Edison Electric Light Co.
1880		Victorio, feared leader of the Minbreno Apache, is killed by Mexican troops in northwestern Chihuahua, Mexico.
1892		An attempt to rob two banks in Coffeyville, Kan., ends in disaster for the Dalton gang as four of the five outlaws are killed and Emmet Dalton is seriously wounded.
1894		Captain Alfred Dreyfus, a Jewish army officer, is arrested for betraying military secrets to Germany.
1914		Congress passes the Clayton Anti-Trust Act, which labor leader Samuel Gompers calls “labor’s charter of freedom.” The act exempts unions from anti-trust laws; strikes, picketing and boycotting become legal; corporate interlocking directorates become illegal, as does setting prices which would effect a monopoly.
1917		Dutch exotic dancer and courtesan Mata Hari is executed by firing squad at Vincennes, outside Paris, on charges of spying for the German Empire during World War I.
1924		A German ZR-3 flies 5000 miles, the furthest Zeppelin flight to date.
1941		Odessa, a Russian port on the Black Sea which has been surrounded by German troops for several weeks, is evacuated by Russian troops.
1945		Vichy French Premier Pierre Laval is executed by a firing squad for his wartime collaboration with the Germans.
1950		President Harry Truman meets with General Douglas MacArthur at Wake Island to discuss U.N. progress in the Korean War.
1964		Nikita Khrushchev is replaced by Leonid Brezhnev as leader of the Soviet Union.
1966		Huey P. Newton and Bobby Seale establish the Black Panther Party, an African-American revolutionary socialist political group, in the US.
1969		Rallies for The Moratorium to End the War  in Vietnam draw over 2 million demonstrators across the US, a quarter million of them in the nation’s capital.
1987		The Great Storm of 1987 strikes the UK and Europe during the night of Oct 15-16, killing over 20 people and causing widespread damage.
1989		Canadian hockey player Wayne Gretzky makes his 1,851st goal, breaking the all-time scoring record in the National Hockey League.
1990		Mikhail Gorbachev, leader of the USSR, receives the Nobel Peace Prize for his work in making his country more open and reducing Cold War tensions.
1997		Andy Green of the UK becomes the first person to break the sound barrier in the Earth’s atmosphere, driving the ThrustSSC supersonic car to a record 763 mph (1,228 km/h).
2003		China launches its first manned space mission, Shenzhou I.
2007		New Zealand police arrest 17 people believed to be part of a paramilitary training camp.
2008		The Dow Jones Industrial Average plummets 733.08 points, the second-largest percentage drop in the Dow’s history.
2011		Protests break out in countries around the globe, under the slogan “United for Global Democracy.”

A Brief History of the Danse Macabre

The Dance Macabre, or Dance of Death, is an idea that's been handed down for centuries. The image is of skeletons escorting people through death and to their final fate in the afterlife. The message is that no matter who you are in life, you will face death one day. While the dance has evolved over time, the message remains.

Though a few earlier examples exist in literature, the first known visual Dance of Death comes from around 1424. It was a large fresco painted in the open arcade of the charnel house in Paris’s Cemetery of the Holy Innocents. Stretched across a long section of wall and visible from the open courtyard of the cemetery, the fresco depicted human figures (all male) accompanied by cavorting skeletons in a long procession. A verse inscribed on the wall below each of the living figures explained the person’s station in life, arranged in order of social status from pope and emperor to shepherd and farmer. Clothing and accessories, like the pope’s cross-shaped staff and robes, or the farmer’s hoe and simple tunic, also helped identify each person.
Located in a busy part of Paris near the main markets, the cemetery wouldn’t have been a quiet, peaceful place of repose like the burial grounds we’re used to today, nor would it have been frequented only by members of the clergy. Instead, it was a public space used for gatherings and celebrations attended by all sorts of different people. These cemetery visitors, on seeing the Dance of Death, would certainly have been reminded of their own impending doom, but would also have likely appreciated the image for its humorous and satirical aspects as well. The grinning, dancing skeletons mocked the living by poking fun at their dismay and, for those in positions of power, by making light of their high status. Enjoy it now, the skeletons implied, because it’s not going to last.

From there, the images spread all over Europe. Atlas Obscura traces the evolution of the Dance Macabre from the Paris fresco to David S. Pumpkins.

The Spookiest Ghost Stories From All 50 States

Every state has places that are said to be haunted by the spirits of those who met an untimely death. Some are legends that grow in the telling while others are enhanced by a historical record of the tragic and violent deaths. And we imagine that some were just made up out of whole cloth. But they are fun to tell people who visit your area. Here's one from Mississippi:

At the center of the historic section of Glenwood Cemetery, Yazoo City’s public burial grounds, there’s a grave surrounded by a chain link fence. Local lore claims that the grave belonged to a witch who lived along the Yazoo River, who used to lure fishermen to the shore to torture them. When the Yazoo County sheriff came to arrest her, she fled into the swamp and fell into quicksand. The sheriff found her half sunk. Before she drowned, she swore to take revenge on Yazoo City. No one thought much of her threat, but they fenced in her grave just in case. Then, on May 25, 1904, a fire nearly wiped out the entire city, spreading quickly on unusually fierce winds. After the fire, Yazoo City residents found the chain link around the witch’s grave cut open.

How does your state's scariest ghost story stack up against that one? Read a ghost tale from each of the 50 states at Mental Floss.

The Ancient Origins of Both Light and Dark Skin

For a long time, both scientists and the general public assumed that skin color evolved to adapt to local conditions. While that idea hasn't been completely debunked, genetic research tells us skin color is a lot more complicated. Until recently just about all genetic research on skin color came from studies done on people of European descent. A new study, led by geneticist Sarah Tishkoff at the University of Pennsylvania, studied the genomes of over a thousand volunteers from ten ethnic groups in Africa, the most genetically diverse continent. The results upend the traditional idea that dark skin evolved to protect a person from the sun near the equator, while light skin evolved further north to let in scarce sunlight for vitamin D production.

But most of the variants that Tishkoff’s team identified, for both light and dark skin, have an ancient African origin. They likely arose in hominids like Homo erectus long before the dawn of our own species, and have coexisted in balance for hundreds and thousands of years. In many cases, the older variant is responsible for lighter skin, not darker. That’s consistent with an idea from Nina Jablonski, an anthropologist from Pennsylvania State University, who thinks that the ancient ancestors of humans—much like other primates—had pale skin. “As our ancestors moved out of the forest and into the savannah, they lost their hair and evolved darker skin,” says Nick Crawford, a researcher in Tishkoff’s lab.

The study doesn't pretend to answer all questions about skin color, but it opens some doors for further research. Read more details about the genetic study at The Atlantic.   

An Aurora borealis named "Steve"

You might wonder what Steve means. At first it didn't mean anything. It was just a name. Steve comes from the animated movie Over The Hedge. In the movie, the main characters were watching bushes rustle. Out came an animal that they didn't know. So they named it Steve.
That's how Steve, the new type of northern lights, got its name. Citizen scientists took a few photos of Steve and showed the photos to NASA scientists. NASA scientists initially couldn't explain the newly discovered aurora type, so they all decided on naming it Steve for now. NASA scientists have now created a "backronym" - Strong Thermal Emission Velocity Enhancement.
NASA has set up a project called Aurorasaurus. At Aurorasaurus, you can see where the northern lights are predicted to be located in the near future, and actual reports of the northern lights from people around the world.

Can magic mushrooms help to cure depression?

A recreational drug beloved by Deadheads and Burning Man attendees could one day become a first-line treatment for clinical depression and a viable replacement for antidepressants such as SSRIs.
Researchers from Imperial College London suggest that magic mushrooms, also known as psilocybin, may help ease symptoms of the mental condition. Their study, published Friday in Scientific Reports, found that magic mushrooms are effective for depression as a way to “reset” the brain.

Magic Mushrooms can help reset the brain and stop depression: scientists

Magic mushrooms are illegal in most countries but the hallucinogen has been used by humans for thousands of years. A new controlled study by Imperial College London has found the active ingredient in them — psilocybin — may help cure depression.

Can magic mushrooms help to cure depression? 

I Have Tasted the Future of Fake Meat

I Have Tasted the Future of Fake Meat: Amazingly, It Did Not Suck

Women Inmates Are Fighting California's Raging Wildfires for as Little as $1 Per Hour

Women Inmates Are Fighting California's Raging Wildfires for as Little as $1 Per Hour

Melissa Etheridge busted for medical marijuana at US/Canadian border

Rocker and cancer survivor Melissa Etheridge busted for medical marijuana at US/Canadian border

Etheridge was diagnosed with stage two breast cancer in 2004 and has undergone surgery and five rounds of chemotherapy and radiation with no indication of a relapse.

Arizona day care workers arrested for playing with sex toy while on duty

Two Arizona daycare workers seen in a Snapchat video were arrested Wednesday for playing with a sex toy while on duty. One employee featured in the video reportedly passed off the sex toy to a child to play with.
Gabriella Del Carmen Garcia, 25, was featured committing the acts in the video with a sex toy. Fatina Saywer, 24, was responsible for shooting and publishing the video. A third woman, Janae Peterson, 21, was identified in the video as having watched the incident unfold. The Chandler Police Department (CPD) was notified of the video's existence Monday. An unidentified person who reported the video discovered it on Snapchat, police said.

Arizona day care workers arrested for playing with sex toy while on duty

‘Hitler’s American Model: The United States and the Making of Nazi Race Law’

‘Hitler’s American Model: The United States and the Making of Nazi Race Law’

A new book by James Whitman will leave you as startled as this respected legal scholar was when he came upon a meticulous record of a meeting of top lawyers in Nazi Germany after Hitler’s rise to power.

Arizona restaurant closes after pro-Dumbass Trump Facebook post infuriates customers

Arizona restaurant closes indefinitely after pro-Dumbass Trump Facebook post infuriates customers

Bundy-backing Las Vegas councilwoman used cops as ‘private Gestapo’ to silence critics

Bundy-backing Las Vegas councilwoman used cops as ‘private Gestapo’ to silence critics at HOA meeting

Sheriff's deputy caught using racial slurs about a local attorney loses his job

A sheriff’s deputy in Sandusky, Ohio was given two choices when he was discovered to have used racial slurs against a local attorney — resign, or be fired

Sheriff's deputy caught using racial slurs about a local attorney loses his job after internal investigation

White supremacists fly into white-hot rage at news some Vikings may have been Muslim

Last Friday, word of an Uppsala University study suggesting that some ancient Vikings were Muslim converts went rocketing around the Internet and hit Twitter like a bomb.
Uppsala researchers found Vikings buried in Sweden with cloth inscribed with the word “Allah,” the Muslim word for “Dog,” suggesting that as they roamed the world, Vikings encountered adherents to Islam and perhaps some of them converted.
Vikings are one of white supremacists’ most favorite things, embodying the “racial purity” and ferocity in war that thousands of 4chan keyboard warriors aspire to. Nazi websites like The Daily Stormer regularly truck in Viking imagery and Norse myth when appealing to disaffected whites, so the news that some Vikings could be Muslim was bound to hit some racists pretty hard.

White supremacists fly into white-hot rage at news some Vikings may have been Muslim

KKK ‘imperial wizard’ who shot at Charlottesville counter-protesters denied bail

KKK ‘imperial wizard’ who shot at Charlottesville counter-protesters denied bail after claiming ‘self-defense’

Richard Wilson Preston, a Ku Klux Klan “imperial wizard” who was caught on video was denied bail. The judge wasn't buying his defense.

A Lot of Women Don’t Think Consent Can Be Withdrawn During Sex

A Lot of Women Don’t Think Consent Can Be Withdrawn During Sex

Teacher ‘used Dog and christianity’ to lure teen into sex

An Alabama teacher used religion to prey on a sex abuse victim, according to a new lawsuit that accuses school officials of covering up the case.
The victim filed a federal civil rights lawsuit accusing Tuscaloosa County School System officials of failing to stop the sexual abuse by teacher Joe Bradley Petrey, reported AL.com.
Petrey taught the victim twice, when she was a freshman and then again as a junior at Brookwood High School.

Teacher ‘used Dog and christianity’ to lure teen into sex — and school covered it up 

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1066		William of Normandy defeats King Harold in the Battle of Hastings.
1651		Laws are passed in Massachusetts forbidding the poor to adopt excessive styles of dress.
1705		The English Navy captures Barcelona in Spain.
1773		Britain’s East India Company tea ships’ cargo is burned at Annapolis, Md.
1806		Napoleon Bonaparte crushes the Prussian army at Jena, Germany.
1832		Blackfeet Indians attack American Fur Company trappers near Montana’s Jefferson River, killing one.
1912		Former U.S. President Theodore Roosevelt is shot and wounded in an assassination attempt in Milwaukee. He is saved by the papers in his breast pocket and, though wounded, insists on finishing his speech.
1933		The Geneva disarmament conference breaks up as Germany proclaims its withdrawal from the disarmament initiative, as well as from the League of Nations, effective October 23. This begins the German policy of independent action in foreign affairs.
1943		Prisoners at Nazi Germany’s Sobibór extermination camp in Poland revolt against the Germans, killing 11 SS guards, and wounding many more. About 300 of the Sobibor Camp’s 600 prisoners escape, and about 50 of these will survive the end of the war.
1944		German Field Marshal Rommel, suspected of complicity in the July 20th plot against Adolf Hitler, is visited at home by two of Hitler’s staff and given the choice of public trial or suicide by poison. He chooses suicide and it is announced that he died of wounds.
1947		Test pilot Chuck Yeager breaks the sound barrier aboard a Bell X-1 rocket plane.
1950		Chinese Communist Forces begin to infiltrate the North Korean Army.
1962		The Cuban Missile Crisis begins; a USAF U-2 reconnaissance pilot photographs Cubans installing Soviet-made missiles capable of carrying nuclear warheads.
1964		Rev. Martin Luther King Jr. is awarded the Nobel Peace Prize for advocating a policy of non-violence.
1966		Montreal, Quebec, Canada, opens its underground Montreal Metro rapid-transit system.
1968		US Defense Department announces 24,000 soldiers and Marines will be sent back to Vietnam for involuntary second tours of duty.
1968		Jim Hines, USA, breaks the “ten-second barrier” in the 100-meter sprint at the Olympics in Mexico City; his time was 9.95.
1969		The British 50-pence coin enters the UK’s currency, the first step toward converting to a decimal system, which was planned for 1971.
1983		Prime Minister of Grenada Maurice Bishop is overthrown and later executed by a military coup.
1994		The Nobel Peace Prize is awarded to Palestinian leader Yasser Arafat, Israel’s Prime Minister Yitzhak Rabin and Israeli Foreign Minister Shimon Peres for establishing the Oslo Accords and preparing for Palestinian Self Government.
1998		Eric Robert Rudolph is charged with the 1996 bombing during the Summer Olympics in Atlanta, Georgia; It was one of several bombing incidents Rudolph carried out to protest legalized abortion in the US.
2012		Felix Baumgartner breaks the world record for highest manned balloon flight, highest parachute jump, and greatest free-fall velocity, parachuting from an altitude of approximately 24 miles (39km).

Puerto Ricans Are So Desperate They're Trying to Drink Toxic Water at Hazardous Waste Sites

Puerto Ricans Are So Desperate They're Trying to Drink Toxic Water at Hazardous Waste Sites

Puerto Rico’s Governor Pleads For Help After Dumbass Trump Threatens To Abandon Recovery Efforts

Dumbass Trump is a monster.

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‘Stop the genocide’

‘Stop the genocide’: San Juan mayor begs UN and UNICEF for help Dumbass Trump won’t give Puerto Rico

After her lambasting of Dumbass Trump on Twitter, San Juan Mayor Carmen Yulín Cruz issued an incendiary press statement in which she called for international agencies to intervene in Puerto Rico.

Federal employees brought in Puerto Ricans to provide them a ‘spa day’ while doing disaster relief

Federal employees brought in Puerto Ricans to provide them a ‘spa day’ while doing disaster relief

A veteran doctor who’s worked on humanitarian missions in ten countries affected by disaster quit abruptly after witnessing federal disaster relief staffers in Puerto Rico bring in citizens to provide them with a “spa day” on the taxpayers dime.

Professional Sports Teams Are Avoiding Dubmbass Trump Hotels in Droves

Professional Sports Teams Are Avoiding Dubmbass Trump Hotels in Droves

The Next Wave of the Tech Revolution Will Wipe Out Millions of Jobs

Hightower: The Next Wave of the Tech Revolution Will Wipe Out Millions of Jobs—Maybe Even Yours

For-Profit Charter Schools Offering Students Cash, Swag to Refer Their Friends

For-Profit Charter Schools Offering Students Cash, Swag to Refer Their Friends

World's Largest Meatpacking Company CEO Arrested

World's Largest Meatpacking Company CEO Arrested Amid Corruption and Bribery Scandals

Costco Cashing in on Preppers' Paranoia

Costco Cashing in on Preppers' Paranoia: Company Overtly Tries to Sell Year's Worth of Canned Food to Apocalypse Crowd

Man Leaves Bomb At NC Airport In Advance Of 'Preparing To Fight A War On U.S. Soil'

Amazingly, Dumbass Trump has not tweeted about him once.

Big Pharma Plays Every Dirty Trick in the Book to Transform Teens and Adults Into Opioid-Zombified Addicts

Big Pharma Plays Every Dirty Trick in the Book to Transform Teens and Adults Into Opioid-Zombified Addicts

Jailed anti-vax mom 'devastated' when she learned her son has been vaccinated

Rebecca Bredow, the Michigan anti-vax mother who was jailed because she refused to let her son receive vaccinations, was not happy to learn that her son received four immunizations this week.

Jailed anti-vax mom 'devastated' when she learned her son has been vaccinated